If I was single again

When I look back at the time I was single, I now see how I was doing this so wrong.
Although I claimed I wanted to be in a relationship, I was not taking any actions towards it.

I was spending most of my time by myself or with close friends – with whom I was talking for hours about my longing for love, about that potential guy I knew…

But I was NOT meeting people.

The mere idea of going to a bar or an event to meet people exhausted me.
And when I finally pushed myself, dressed up and went out, if I didn’t meet anyone interesting, I would tell myself “see I told you, there is no one out there, why even bother.”
And forget about dating apps! Yes, I signed up, I looked at the profiles, maybe very occasionally I swiped right, but I never wrote to or back to any of my matches.

I don’t know what I was thinking…
Maybe that the guy would just show up at my door on a white horse?
Fascinating self-sabotage…

Obviously, I stayed single.

Until I learned to take action, to take responsibility for creating the results in my life.

If I was single again, I would kick myself in the butt and put myself out there
I would ask my friends to introduce me to interesting people.
I would join groups focused on activities I enjoy.
I would do online dating. For real this time.

But more importantly, I would create and cultivate a mindset supporting my goal.
I would decide to think that behind that screen there might be a very cool guy.
I would decide to enjoy the night out with or without meeting a potential date.
I would decide to show up as I am and meet people, just because it’s fun.