Positive emotions don’t create relationships

You don’t need to feel elated all the time when you are looking for love.

What you need is willingness to feel shitty.

The journey to meeting your person inevitably brings ups & downs.

Whether we like it or not, the “downs” are part of the process.

The more you accept that idea…

And the more you are willing to FEEL your negative emotions….

The less they will impact you.

And the faster you will be able to get back up and keep going.

Be willing to feel frustration when you’ve been on an app for months without results.

Be willing to feel anxiety when he is not answering your messages.

Be willing to feel anger when you get ghosted.

Be willing to feel disappointment when the guy you’re into ends things after a few weeks.

Be willing to feel all the confusion, fear, rejection, grief, jealousy, shame, etc.

The more resistant you are to feel negative emotions, the more you avoid them.

And the more you avoid them, the more space they take up….
The less risks you take…

The less opportunities you create to meet your person.

When you are willing to feel negative emotions you learn how to handle them and you grow emotional resilience. You teach your system that you can feel emotions and survive. You realize these emotions don’t have to overpower you. You can feel the discomfort and come out to the other side, feeling stronger.

Your ability to handle any emotion will lead you to take action, to take risks, to meet new people, to show up authentically…. And eventually to create the relationship you really want.