My partner and I don’t sleep in the same bedroom

We never did. From the beginning of our relationship we both agreed on the importance of having a private space where we could be on our own, follow our own rhythm and cultivate our energy.

I believe distance is essential in a relationship. As much as closeness and intimacy. Both are needed to fuel the connection. There is much to say about this and I’ll come back to it…

But today I wanted to highlight the idea that there is not one way to be in a couple.

When you’ve been single for a while, when you’ve built your life on your own terms, the idea of relationship can be scary.

I was certainly my case. As much as I wanted to build a life with someone, I also cherished my freedom.

Despite the narrow definition that most of us received, we can create relationships that meet our needs, looks like us and reflect our vision – and not some outdated standards.

You and your partner get to decide what your relationship looks like.
You can create your own model, your own rules.

Monogamous, polyamorous.
Children or no.
Degree of privacy/intimacy.

You get to decide.